If you don’t care about you then you sure don’t care about me.
Maybe this is pushing the boat out a little bit and I’m nitpicking but this is something that really concerned me about Red Flags. He would snap and when he drove, and he drove like a maniac. Swerving in and out between cars as we drove down the streets of London, doing 40mph over speed bumps down back roads. I’m not a bad passenger but had to call him out on it for two reason, one it scared me for my safety and two it concerned me for how much he cares about me. Let me explain to you why.
He drove recklessly; he took too many risks for my liking, and it showed me he didn’t care about the other people on the road and more upsettingly he didn’t care about me. He was willing to put my safety at risk to arrive at our destination 3 minutes early.
Is it really necessary for you to post 16 snapchats with location filters of you getting from A to B and recording down a single track road? Do you not see the stupidity of that, you’re really willing to put yourself at risk for a 2 or 3 10 second snapchat video of some bushes either side of your car. That’s stupid.
I am a fan of social media and sharing with people an insight into my life with the people I know but if you’re selfish enough to put social media above my safety and comfort then that’s where there is a problem. Not only did it put you and I at risk but you don’t take into account the way that your actions can effect those that are around you. You may not know these people but you’re reckless behaviour is putting them at risk and you’re too self involved to see that.
That was where the issue laid. It was deeper that an attachment to social media, it was the self involvement, selfishness. I need someone is able to take into account how they’re actions will effect others. When you start dating someone it’s two people coming together as one. Yes you still want to have you’re own separate lives and be you’re own person but you do things as a pair. What happens if you do crash and something happens to me and I am injured, but not only this what if something happens to you. We are becoming one. My feelings for you are growing stronger and stronger by the day, I don’t want to loose what we have because you didn’t think about the consequences of your actions. What about your family and the effect that loosing you would have on them?
I was at a point where I would take into account his plans and his life and how the two would co-inside but it made me wonder if he would be willing to do the same for me or did he think our relationship would consist of him saying “jump” and my response to be “How high?”
I knew he cared about me deeply but this was an issue for me. I want to feel safe when with the man I am dating and that he would not let harm come to me. When he held me I felt this exact way I felt protected, cared for but as soon as we got into that car that vanished and the man that made me feel secure soon made me feel at risk. My life was in his hands and for the distance of that car journey I felt like he forgot about me, my life was no longer important to him.