Is he real?
Why is everyone so obsessed with finding “The One.” From a young age we are fed the idea that we need a man by our side with all these fairytales and t.v programs that we grew up with. As a child I watched and read stories such as Cinderella, Beauty and The Beast, The little Mermaid and these Princess/Fairytale stories are all about “The One” finding their prince. It’s almost like as a child we are being sold a subliminal message that we can’t stand on our own two feet and that we need a man by our side. These princesses do so much just to impress the guy and get their happily ever after.
We get up early to fix our hair and take extra time to do our makeup if we are meeting the guy we like. If we’re meeting a guy you always put extra effort in to look good. Everyone is so obsessed with finding the one. Were searching for that person that will treat you as if you’re a princess just like in the stories we read, someone who spoils you, wipes your tears when your sad and laughs with you when you’re happy.
My question though is does Prince Charming really exist? People marry and remarry, others go from relationship to relationship trying to find the one they want to spend the rest of their life with, thinking that they’ve found the one, only to be met with disappointment when it all ends. And what about those that are widowed but then find new love later down the line. Surely there can’t only be one soul person in the world that is a perfect match for us is there?
When you’re young you seem to have the idea that you’ll move out get the perfect job and house, find the perfect man and have children all by the time you’re 30. But how often is that the case? The average age that people marry at in England is 32. Even if you get married at 40, you get to live your life the way you want to, enjoy it build a career before. And a lot of children nowadays are born out of wedlock so just because you’re not married doesn’t mean you cant have a child. We should be able to live the life we want to and not have to worry about settling down. Don’t get me wrong, just because you marry young or are in a serious relationship at a younger age doesn’t mean that you don’t get to live the life you want to though. It just may mean more restrictions, more compromising.
Quite often we have the perfect guy/girl dreamed up in our heads. I know my perfect man would be tall; around 6ft (only as I’m a tall girl that likes to wear heels) , tanned, big built (tubby or muscly, I’m not fussy), beard and a good dress sense. Oh and smells amazing. Smelling amazing always helps. But what is the likeliness that I’m going to meet this dream man. Lots of people also have added things like, can’t be a smoker, must like to hike, must have a nice car, must enjoy doing this or this or this. In reality you need to be able to compromise. Say you have found your dream man but he doesn’t have a car and that’s a “requirement” for you, are you really that shallow that you’re not going to give it ago. Give them a chance, maybe they really are The One.
In my opinion as long as we know what we want thats enough, but we need to stop searching, stop being too picky and let fate take its toll. If it’s meant to be it will be.
I think The One is out there somewhere it just may not be the person you think it should be. Take a chance, they could be The One.